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24/10/2005

Self Esteem and how you use your body

Could you describe how someone with low self esteem might stand/hold themselves? Or how they might walk? I know it is a huge generalization and I generally like to avoid those (*grin*), but I am sure you started to picture in your mind the following:
  • Slumped chest
  • Drooping shoulders
  • Bowed head
  • Shuffling walk
These are all classic 'symptoms' of low self esteem, as seen from the outside.
 
But what if these were not just symptoms, but a fundamental part of how we maintain low self esteem. What if simply by starting to shift your physiology and 'modeling' that of someone with apparently high self esteem, you were able to slightly but fundamentally shift your thoughts and feelings of self worth?
 
I have to tell you it will work!
 
I have had a personal and powerful experience of this, many years ago. It was when I was just starting out in my training, coaching and facilitation business. I felt quite strong 'on stage' as it were, but when meeting with clients - to take a brief - to structure a program - to follow up on results - I often felt inadequate, very 'low-status' compared to them.
 
One day, whilst walking to a client and having these quite negative thoughts running through my mind, I realized that the 'strong feeling' I had on stage was all to do with being an extremely competent and trusted facilitator and presenter. All I had to do was imagine that, as I walked around the city streets, I was that same facilitator 'on stage'.
 
The transformation in my body was remarkable. My pace changed. I stood up straighter. I had a knowing smile of understanding. I felt confident!
 
Nothing was the same after that, something had clicked. Not something major or cathartic, but something fundamental.
 
Try it for yourself. How would you stand or walk if you were the most confident person you know? You never know. This one small thing could change your life.
 
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All the best in your journey!
 
 
 
Robert

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