06/04/2006
How To Build Self Esteem By Faking It
A while ago (OK, too long, I know, blogs are supposed to be more regular than mine, but I don't want to clutter it with trivia ...) I wrote an article about "How To Get Instant Self Esteem And Self Confidence In The Next 15 Mins" (It's worth reading alongside this blog).
I had been thinking about how important this philosophy is, particularly with some new work I have been undertaking where my own emotional state has been somewhat up and down in the space of a few hours. It being on my mind, I have just sent an article out to my subscribers reminding them of the application of this powerful technique and I thought I would post some thoughts about it on the blog too ...
To summarize, the technique takes on the philosophy that we are essentially "at effect" of our emotional states at any point in the day.
And that these emotional states in turn direct our thoughts and actions (obviously - you feel happy ... so you think happy thoughts and then do fun things).
So if you can influence ... or even deliberately create ... your own emotional states, then it in turn will have a domino effect of creating matching thoughts and actions.
The problem is, when you first start doing it, it feels a little 'fake'.
However ... ALL our emotional states are 'faked' (and I mean this respectfully - they feel 'real' at the time). If they weren't, then how come we can turn them on and off at will - for example by reading a book or watching a movie. When we read a book or watch a movie and come to a sad part or a happy part, don't we in turn feel affected? But it's just fake, right?
Anyway, enough of my preaching to you ... my point is, I have been re-reminded to create my own states ... even when I don't feel like it and I want to wallow around in self pity.
That's the very time to practice 'Being As If'. (Or 'Fake It Til You Make It')
All the best!
Robert
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